We have tons of shared interests, practice yoga together and, yes, go to all of the NYC organic restaurants. What is even more remarkable is that we have never had one argument since we started spending time together. The Situation She is divorced (well, right on the verge of it becoming legal and having all the papers signed) and has two very young children.
I am 41, have never been married and don’t have any kids.
The relationship of a girlfriend and her guy’s kids can be so complicated, with so many factors to consider. The kids might feel like they are being disloyal to their mother if they are kind to the girlfriend. They might be jealous that the girlfriend is taking their dad’s time. They might have hope that the parents are getting back together and that this is the woman standing in the way of that. They might really like the woman, but are just shy.
She said she ended up apologizing to the woman years later, because she realized it wasn’t the woman she disliked, it was HER feeling resentful that her dad wasn’t with her mom. Dating someone with kids is very different than dating someone who doesn’t have kids.
The plan is simple: (1) Be a cool, reasonable human. My nieces and nephew are the most important people to me in the world outside of my husband and this pizza. She won't rule out dating you because you have kids.
(2) Figure out your own shit out so you don't harsh everyone's good time. Sometimes a woman just doesn't want to experience giving birth and being the primary (or sole) caretaker for a bebe.
I have been optimistic about creating a bond because I grew up in a fatherless world myself and though I am not looking to replace his biological father, I would like to be someone he can look up to and seek advice in his day-to-day life.
So as I experience this journey, which so far seems to be going swimmingly, here are some tips I’d like to pass down for anyone who might be gearing up for the friend-dad role.1. Expressing enthusiasm for the kiddo’s hobbies will enlighten you.
Very surprised that the discussion of our date ended up on the Internet (hey, that’s the peril of going out with a blogger, right????A few months ago I went on a coffee date with a very wonderful woman and ever since then we have been seeing each other.In that post and in a follow-up one, I talked about my issue with her love of an occasional glass of wine and how it was really a “me problem”. I have a friend who is in her forties, who told me that her parents got divorced in high school, and that she was really mean to her dad’s girlfriend (who is now his wife) for years. You should have your own baby feelings figured out. A decision like this is not easily come to and when she says she doesn't want kids, she means it. You're going to do lots of super-fun stuff together.*Broadens Ok Cupid search.* *Meets soul mate.* *Thanks writer of this list (Laura) with a million billion dollars.* *Eventually goes to heaven.* 8.