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To talk about this subject I've brought on David Tian, well known as Singapore's "Hitch" (reference to the Will Smith movie). So for guys who are interested in Asian women, whether they be Western countries or in Asia, that's kind of another topic we’re going to be looking into because it’s a bit different. [Angel Donovan]: So, yeah, we’re just going to dive straight into the topic here with, basically, you know, is, are Asian women like culturally, ethnically Asian women, and Western women different or are they the same? But it’s a good idea to keep in mind that most of the psychology that we’re basing, or at least I’m basing, my dating skills training on is coming from evolutionary psychology. But the little bit, the 5% that is different, can make a big difference at crucial points. [David Tian]: So it is important to understand the culture and especially if you’re in Asia or if it’s a woman who’s surrounded by other Asians who are still thinking very much along the lines of an Asian culture that there are some really big points that could really trip you up later on. So Japan created its national identity in the 700s AD in opposition or with China in mind as the major, the dominant culture in the area, and same with Korea. [David Tian]: So they’re always defying themselves against the middle kingdom, China, and the same goes with Vietnam in the South. Whereas in the West I think there's an emphasis on individualism that they don’t want to admit that they’re affected by such things as face. I think that's one of the reasons why Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People is so effective in the West. So just this view that being in society means that you have to have a different standard of behavior. And so I remember that girl was just like, “I don’t know you. Don’t talk to me.” And I was like, “Are you serious? Like if you ask for directions and it looks like you’re a tourist, which if you’re a foreigner, probably people will just accept that. [David Tian]: Especially if you start with English. [Angel Donovan]: [Laughs] [David Tian]: And then as people start crossing the road, that's when you open her. So she has to stop, and then no one will be looking at her because everyone’s going to be busy trying to get across the road. [David Tian]: Well, a major mark against the foreigner coming in from nowhere and just cold approaching at clubs is that he ignores the fact that she’s probably there with a bigger group of people. [David Tian]: If an Asian girl shows up at a bar by herself, I mean just like anywhere else in the world but especially in Asia, she’s DTF, like she’s looking to hook up. [Angel Donovan]: [Laughs] [David Tian]: Not being misogynistic there. [David Tian]: And he taught me the special type of cave manning....

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